Reasons Why Millenials are Leaving Your Company

Millenials are known for having one foot out the door when they join a company, and there have have been many studies investigating the reasons why.

A recent Deloitte survey found that "78% of Swiss Millennials think that they are considered for potential leadership positions (compared to only 58% on a global level."  It was then concluded that "Swiss employers are not afraid of considering younger employees for open leadership roles,” implying that millennials in other countries leave their jobs because they are not considered for open leadership roles.

However, I believe this conclusion to be a bit misguided.

Millennials are leaving companies for a variety of reasons.

I can only speak for the clients I’ve encountered in my own practice, but I’ve found that many younger employees complain that they did not get any leadership roles, but when asked if they had expressed their desire to be considered for an open role, they said no.

They may have insecurities that stop them from asking for what they want.

Often their not asking to even be considered is due to a variety of reasons, including:

  • “I’m not qualified”
  • “I don’t want to stand out”
  • “I’ll be considered when they think I’m ready or worthy enough”


They may leave because they don’t feel heard or valued.

Since many millenials grew up with parenting styles that included constant encouragement, acknowledgement, and praise, many also be leaving due to feeling like they’re not being heard or valued.

Individualized coaching may give you the biggest bang for your buck. 

It’s very easy to treat these millenials with a “suck it up” attitude, since older generations grew up with the "work hard, keep your head down, do what you're told, and you can climb up to the corporate ladder” mentality.

But what I’m finding is that millennials respond to best is individualized attention and support in developing better coping, stress management, and communication skills. 

When coached to develop new mindsets and habits that promote better team working skills and more purpose and meaning within their jobs, your millennials will experience long-term changes. Not only do you get a better employee who feels valued, heard, and supported, but you also get an team player who wants to stay in your company for the long-term. 


Make sure your perks and benefits include individualized support.

So many companies today tend to focus on providing fun gadgets and booze and wellness programs for millennial employees to "keep them happy," when instead, it would be greatly beneficial to consider providing coaching for younger individuals, on topics like effective communication, stress management, time management, emotional modulation, etc. 

Check out Simon Sinek's talk about how companies today have the responsibility of adapting to the societal changes in business today and providing more relevant support to the younger generations.

Have you tried providing individualized coaching in your company to help millenials cope and improve their ability to find meaning and purpose in their work?

3 Overlooked Tips to Managing Mild Depression

This week, some of my tips for recognizing the hardly recognized mild depression showed up in  Bustle article, "15 Daily Habits You Didn’t Realize Can Be Signs of Mild Depression, Because Symptoms Can Be Subtle." Be sure to check it out so you can catch the early signs of mild depression before it snowballs into something more serious. 

So after reading that article, you're well-versed in the little signs of mild depression. What if you recognize some of them in your own life? 

The following are 3 of my top tips that are often overlooked in managing mild depression and preventing it from getting worse. 

3. Move your body.

Ok, fine, this one we ALL know about, but it's one of the hardest things to do. When you're feeling down, getting your body to move is like jumping over hurdles in a marathon. 

More movement also means you're breathing in more oxygen and your blood is flowing, which then means your body and brain are being fed vital nutrients that keep your mind, body, and soul happy. One such nutrient is endorphins, which get released with movement - they are our body's natural "happy hormones." 

Endorphins improve mood, cognition, memory, and physical health. Even if it's just a walk down the hall to the bathroom at work or reaching your arms up overhead to stretch during the day, these little movements can help boost your mood. 

2. Seek out social support. 

Another one of the last things we want to do when we're feeling out of sorts or down is to go hang out with people. Many of us tend to hide at home or turn inwards when we're not feeling so good, but it's the last thing we want to do. 

According to Shawn Achor's "The Happiness Advantage," "social support is a far greater predictor of happiness than anything else." Having people to lean on, talk to, ask for support from means that we get to multiply our own emotional, intellectual and physical resources. When you are not feeling at your top potential, it's the best time to reach out to your support system for those extra resources. 

For those who feel like they have no "friends," even just going to the downstairs coffee shop and having a little "How are you?" chat with the barista can begin to boost mood. When we make a positive social connection, another hormone called oxytocin is released into our bloodstream, which immediately reduces anxiety and improves concentration and focus. 

1. Human touch is one of the most overlooked tips.

Having people is great, but having someone touch you is one of the big mood medicines that are super overlooked. When was the last time you gave or received a hug? 

According to a Stanford University report, "several studies are showing significant benefits in wound healing, pain and anxiety." It's been shown to lower blood pressure, can reduce heart rate, releases oxytocins, and reduces stress. 

How can you incorporate more touch into your life? 

5 Tips to Get more work done and go home earlier

In this busy time, many of us want to work faster so that we can leave work and do the other things that are meaningful and fulfilling to us. Here are 5 tips that are a bit different from what you've seen out there so far.

As a warning, some may seem counterintuitive and time-consuming, but the time spent on these tips is well worth it. 

Tip 1: Visualize

First thing in the morning, do a quick visualization exercise of not just leaving work earlier, but also of WHAT you will be doing once you leave work or WHO you will be spending time with. 

This creates a sense of meaning behind the desire to leave work early as opposed to just racing against the clock.

Our thoughts and beliefs greatly impact our reality, so if you want to get out early but don't really believe that you can, you won't. 

Tip 2:

Prioritize your work by not just time, but also energy requirements.

Consider the amount of time you need to complete one of the tasks on your list as well as the amount of energy it requires. Does it require major focus, or is it one of those tedious tasks that you don't need so much focus for?

Tip 3: Split up.

Split up the time- and energy-consuming tasks into at least 2 parts. 

Splitting up such tasks shifts your mindset to a more positive one. Instead of waiting until the entire project is done, you win and should celebrate each time you complete each part, which tricks your brain into feeling more motivated! 

This trick also allows you to recharge back to 100% instead of plowing through the task as your personal energy battery keeps draining and draining. 

Tip 4: Break! 


This seems counterintuitive, but most people cannot maintain meaningful focus on a task and produce their best work for anything longer than 25 minutes at a time. 

Figure out how long you usually work in a state of flow for - when you feel like your focus is laser sharp and super strong. The minute it starts waning (signs include taking deeper breaths, rubbing your face, looking away from the computer, getting more easily distracted, etc.) take a note of how much time has passed. Then set a timer for that time to work, and when the timer goes off, take a break for a few minutes and do something entirely different, like use the restroom, get a sip of water, give a coworker a hug, etc. 

Trying to work past your time of ultra focus is counterproductive - taking breaks allows you to refresh and reenergize your mind, body, and brain, so that you can work with laser focus again.

You'll get more quality work done faster

Tip 5: Alternate tasks. 

Alternate fast/low energy tasks with more time-consuming/high focus tasks. 

Along the same lines as Tip 4, alternating these two types of tasks helps protect you from burnout. 

For example, work on a large project for 25 minutes, then take a sip of water and check your email for a few minutes. Then return to the big project for 25 minutes, then walk to the bathroom and make a few copies. 


How do you like these tips? 

2 Reasons Why Company Perks Don't Work

Ok, so we've all heard of the really "cool" companies who pay for their employees' weddings, or gift them cars, or provide catered lunches, or buy them whatever the heck piece of furniture they want. 

But do they really work?

Many companies are investing a lot money into such perks, thinking that it's a cost-effective way to get more work out of their people. But with the intention of just "getting the most work out of people," these perks definitely don't work. 

They're usually put into effect with the wrong intentions.

Nobody likes feeling like a farmed cow that's fed regularly and expected to produce, produce, produce. 

Some companies cater lunches as an incentive for people to work longer hours, or to appease the ones who already do. This may be taken as an award for working longer hours, so employees may feel that they are expected to stay at work longer, eat through lunch at their desk, and continue working through breaks.

Employees who don't take enough breaks throughout the day are less creative and sooner or later get burned out, resulting in absenteeism costs, higher risks of injury (yes, even in desk jobs), and decreased productivity. 

They're usually bandaids.

Fun perks tend to be more like bandaids in that they make people happy in the now, but in the long term, they're really brushing real issues that need to be addressed under the rug. 

For example, companies that provide booze, game tables, and Fitbits want work to seem fun but if underlying issues such as communication problems amongst team members or unhealthy work habits that lead to injury are not also addressed, employees will soon get over the "fun" and feel the stress of the underlying issues.

So what can you do to make sure they do work?

When considering which company perks to invest in, ask yourself if you're doing providing these with the employee's best interest in mind, or your own and your business'. If you want your best talent to stay in your company and to continually grow and develop their skills, you'll need to think about their long-term wellbeing and not just what you think they want now. 

Consider sending out a company survey that asks, "What can the company provide you with to support your happiness and growth for the next 10 years or more?" When collecting answers, be sure to consider what the underlying root issues are instead of just taking answers at face value. This may involve speaking to individual employees more to gather more information. 

Yes, this process takes a lot of time and energy and analysis, but the benefits are well worth it. Constantly speaking to and getting involved in the lives and wellbeing of employees are like getting long-term cost-effective solutions handed to you on platter. Imagine lower healthcare costs, increased productivity, a sense of REAL fun (as opposed to bandaid fun), and a cohesive company filled with individuals who are part of a movement to impact the world.  

Since this process takes more time and energy than your company may want to deal with, you can work with other companies that create and provide corporate wellness programs. Just be sure to ask whether they do this kind of extensive research with direct communication with your employees before they spit out a proposal with a bunch of workshops and fun things that "your company needs." 

As always, call me if you're interested in learning how to do this with your own company!

3 Ways to Deal with Nasty Coworkers

Last week, I posted a question on Facebook asking for everyone's greatest challenge when it comes to communicating effectively at work and some people mentioned dealing with egotistical individuals who like to blur the boundaries of their job description and ignore basic human manners. Over and over again. 

Scroll down to see 3 tips to deal with such people! 

Set your boundaries from the beginning. 

This can look like writing out the task or question you are asking them as concisely and clearly as possible. (I'll write another post on clear written communication soon.) Writing this out in email form is a good idea as this creates a record. 

Be clear in your expectations. Sometimes, this can be blurred with micromanaging, so be sure that you're not being overbearing, repeating the same things multiple times, or hovering over every single decision being made. Be at least cordial in your correspondences, if not outright kind. 

Kill them with kindness. 

No matter what you do, it's never worth it to be rude back. You can be short, but going out of  your way to be nasty or rude back will leave you feeling angry, resentful, hurt, and probably guilty for a longer period of time. 

If you're frustrated and hurt, acknowledge those feelings, but then just let it pass through you. Have you heard this saying?

“Holding on to anger or a grudge is like holding a burning piece of coal with the intention of throwing it at someone else. You still get burned.”

Focus on yourself. 

Here's another good quote: 

You can never change what’s already happened, but you can change how you react to it.”

You can't change another person's thoughts, actions, beliefs, whatever. So why dwell on that? Instead, you can focus on how you felt when they said/did what they said/did, acknowledge, let it pass through you, and then start thinking about how you can move forward to change that bad feeling into something more positive. 

One way to reset yourself is to set your boundaries (we come full circle.) 


In summary, these are just some of the options that you have, so realize that you are never stuck with someone who is toxic.

What do you do to deal with nasty coworkers at work?